The Power of Relationships and Pathways to Longevity

Rabbi Richard Address D. Min Written by Rabbi Richard Address D. Min
SeniorLiving.Org Expert on Judaism | Aging And Mortality | Healthy Aging

Shalom. As a society, we seem to continually engaged in staying young and living longer. Of course, we all know that the "staying younger" part of our lives has more to do with how we feel in our souls that how we actually feel in our bodies. The explosion of aging in our world has brought a new attention to how we age and how we choose to live as we age. The crush of baby boomers, now turning 62 and 65, is reshaping our culture as we speak. Everything from architecture to grand-parenting is in flux and change. Yet, it seems that one issue of life remains constant. Relationships.

Pathways to Longevity

I am a believer in what I have come to call the "theology of relationships". This is not very high brow. It is pretty simply, actually. It is a belief that the most powerful aspect of our lives, especially as we age, are the relationships that we have. The desire to be with other people; to share life, in all of its aspects, is a key to health of the soul and thus attitudes to living. We stress this because we do not wish to be alone. In fact, as research has shown, the great fear of so many of us as we age is that we will be alone.

So, relationships are primary and the nurturing of these relationships is a key to health and fulfillment. In fact, research has even shown that membership in religious institutions benefits longevity because such membership increases contact with others and promotes relationships. Dr. Andrew Newberg, who directs the Center for Integrative Medicine at Jefferson Medical University on Philadelphia, recently published an article which over viewed some recent academic research on the power of relationships in longevity. He looked at several studies and noted that: "religiosity may confer benefits for some individuals. Religious service attendance is predictive of higher life satisfaction among elders....Thus, there appears to be an array of benefits from religious and spiritual practices and experiences that benefit physical and mental health". ("Spirituality and the Aging Brain". Andrew B Newberg. Generations: Vol. 35. No. 2. Spring 2011. p.87,88)

The message from all of these studies? Keep your friends. Put yourself in situations of social contact and engagement. Enjoy the mental, emotional and physical stimulation of others and do all you can to maintain and strengthen the relationships we have.


Rabbi Richard F Address, D.MIn

Updated: Mar 06, 2012


[4] Comments... Read them below.
Marjorie Flowers Nabutete On Aug 14, 2014
thank you Rabbi. those words hold so true. and dear to my heart. Shalom

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Norminha On Jan 26, 2014
Well said! Good relationships are like oil lubricating the old engine to keep it going. We were created to be social creatures, to live in harmony with each other and spirituality is the most important of all lubricators, for it brings peace -peace that material things, alone, cannot give..

Molly MacBean On Feb 19, 2013
I love your article! Relationships are key as we grow older as they provide us with strength, guidance and validation. As physical trappings fall away, we rely more on spiritual strength. Thank you!